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Facebook should be called "AgreeWithMeOrFuckOffBook." Seriously.

How many of you have read a friend's post, commented, and then gotten a not-so-nice reply just because you didn't agree wholeheartedly with their post?

I am getting sick and tired of people on Facebook (even close friends) getting mad at me for disagreeing with something they posted. It's not like I say it rudely or don't give a good reason why my opinions differ. I always explain calmly and clearly why I disagree, hoping that they will understand a different point of view. My replies are similar to many of my DA journals, minus any foul language, of course. I like to think that I present a fair, unbiased argument most of the time, but apparently some people on Facebook only want to preach to the choir and get a "Hallelujah!" in return.

One friend of mine right now is being kind of crabby, and I'm not the only person she's snapped at. First she posts, to nobody in particular "I don't understand you but hey, you're fucked up in the head anyway" to which one of her male friends jokingly replies "That is one of the nicest things anyone has every said to me". Her response to that? "This has nothing to do with you." Does that sound snippy, or is it just me?

Then she shares a photo on her wall of a cell phone and the following message: "You don't need to have sex to cheat. Once you find yourself deleting text messages, you're basically almost there." So I decided to comment with a verse from the Bible (she's very Christian). I posted Matthew 5:27-28: "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Her response: "This doesnt apply to non married ppl."

What the hell? I was trying to be SUPPORTIVE of her post by backing it up with a Biblical passage spoken by Jesus Christ Himself! She usually loves that sort of thing. And how the hell does it not apply to people who aren't married? Most people agree that you should be faithful, whether you're married or simply dating. Right? I don't even know why she posted that to begin with when she isn't even married or in a relationship.

Facebook seriously needs a new name to reflect the attitudes of the people on it. How about MyPedestal? Or ScrewYou? I dunno. It's 12:30 a.m. and I'm bored and irritated. Sorry to rant, but thanks for reading. You know you don't have to read anything I post or agree with me. :)
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MonacoMac Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I avoid Facebook like the plague because of hearing things like this. I'm also afraid people in my past will find me and lead to much unpleasantness. xD People can get really touchy over a Facebook comment.

I know one time I had this moocher staying at my house (she was supposed to stay for two - four months until she got a job, but ended up staying 2 years rent free and making my life hell the whole time) and she kept trashing me on Facebook saying that I didn't give her enough privacy in the house and called me a psychopath and all sorts of things. I was like, "Well excuse me Miss Thang, this is my house and you can pack your bags and leave any day now and if my being a psychopath is what it takes to get rid of your ass then so be it! The sooner the better!" It was total Jerry Springer here for a while because of Facebook. Ha... memories.

I guess in that case maybe my testiness was justified? :D But in the case of your friend I guess she probably doesn't really think about the way you wrote it and the intent. Things can look a lot different over the internet if people tend to be over-sensitive to others opinions. They just have to learn to get over it and suck it up or they're going to be constantly irritated at the world. Some people are just natural debaters and others would rather be always right and never have their beliefs questioned. Not much you can do for that sort.
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:iconnevuela:
You were completely justified, in my opinion. :nod: And someone has to really be having some issues if they're going to assume every post is about them. Even when I feel that way, I refrain from launching into battle mode and instead reply to them in a way that explains MY point of view on the issue without it sounding like I'm on to them.
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:iconsideshowjazz17:
I don't get that on Facebook much, but on YouTube, I posted that I felt sorry for Meg from "Family Guy" and everyone was like "You're stupid you idiot, it's not real". Did they have any right to mock empathy for a character, even if she is fictional?
So yeah, I definitely agree.
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Pixar-Porsche Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist Filmographer
as always, I agree. XD
can you link me to ur profile? I'll friend u
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:icontherealmoshmonkey:
I usually reply to people who say "none of my business" with well can't help you then.

One thing that pisses me off with Facebook is people that accept or request you and then post something likeI'm having a clearout as x y and z don't speak to me. I'm sorry but I'm not online posting on their walls 24/7 and also time zones play their part. The other night I kept getting calendar requests so I checked it out and sent requests back to my entire friends list and this idiot messaged me saying why are you sending me game requests when you never post on my wall. Then again he never critiqued my artwork either so it works both ways, I said if thats how you feel unfriend me then and he took a hint and good riddance.
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:iconnevuela:
If I could "like" that comment, I would! :D
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:icontherealmoshmonkey:
The none of your business part?
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:iconnevuela:
Yup, your reply to people who say that. :)
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:iconcontraryheartliger:
Jeesh...You don't have to actually be married to commit adultery.

A quote from The Old Catholic Encyclopedia (according to another forum; I looked it up to make sure I was being accurate): "Adultery is defined as carnal connection between a married person and one unmarried, or between a married person and the spouse of another. It is seen to differ from fornication in that it supposes the marriage of one or both of the agents." So, she was mistaken. It might not have been MEANT for "non married ppl", but it DOES apply to them if they do this.

I'm just nitpicking here, though. XD I agree with you. People aren't always going to agree, and no amount of snippy replies are likely to change the other person's mind. In fact, with me at least, it does the exact opposite. I end up holding even more stubbornly to my side of things!

These little pointed comments that people make on Facebook, the ones that aren't directed at anyone in particular but COULD be directed at anyone who might read them...those sort of bug me. I never know if I actually offended somebody, or if somebody else offended them, or if they're just trying to be clever. I've been guilty of it myself, and I realized that I was just feeling sorry for myself and trying to garner sympathy. Not saying that that's what she did, mind you.

I'm talking your ear off now. XD I just don't worry about those things anymore. If I don't agree with someone, I'll usually refrain from posting or state my point once before bowing out of the conversation.
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