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Facebook should be called "AgreeWithMeOrFuckOffBook." Seriously.

How many of you have read a friend's post, commented, and then gotten a not-so-nice reply just because you didn't agree wholeheartedly with their post?

I am getting sick and tired of people on Facebook (even close friends) getting mad at me for disagreeing with something they posted. It's not like I say it rudely or don't give a good reason why my opinions differ. I always explain calmly and clearly why I disagree, hoping that they will understand a different point of view. My replies are similar to many of my DA journals, minus any foul language, of course. I like to think that I present a fair, unbiased argument most of the time, but apparently some people on Facebook only want to preach to the choir and get a "Hallelujah!" in return.

One friend of mine right now is being kind of crabby, and I'm not the only person she's snapped at. First she posts, to nobody in particular "I don't understand you but hey, you're fucked up in the head anyway" to which one of her male friends jokingly replies "That is one of the nicest things anyone has every said to me". Her response to that? "This has nothing to do with you." Does that sound snippy, or is it just me?

Then she shares a photo on her wall of a cell phone and the following message: "You don't need to have sex to cheat. Once you find yourself deleting text messages, you're basically almost there." So I decided to comment with a verse from the Bible (she's very Christian). I posted Matthew 5:27-28: "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Her response: "This doesnt apply to non married ppl."

What the hell? I was trying to be SUPPORTIVE of her post by backing it up with a Biblical passage spoken by Jesus Christ Himself! She usually loves that sort of thing. And how the hell does it not apply to people who aren't married? Most people agree that you should be faithful, whether you're married or simply dating. Right? I don't even know why she posted that to begin with when she isn't even married or in a relationship.

Facebook seriously needs a new name to reflect the attitudes of the people on it. How about MyPedestal? Or ScrewYou? I dunno. It's 12:30 a.m. and I'm bored and irritated. Sorry to rant, but thanks for reading. You know you don't have to read anything I post or agree with me. :)
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MonacoMac Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I avoid Facebook like the plague because of hearing things like this. I'm also afraid people in my past will find me and lead to much unpleasantness. xD People can get really touchy over a Facebook comment.

I know one time I had this moocher staying at my house (she was supposed to stay for two - four months until she got a job, but ended up staying 2 years rent free and making my life hell the whole time) and she kept trashing me on Facebook saying that I didn't give her enough privacy in the house and called me a psychopath and all sorts of things. I was like, "Well excuse me Miss Thang, this is my house and you can pack your bags and leave any day now and if my being a psychopath is what it takes to get rid of your ass then so be it! The sooner the better!" It was total Jerry Springer here for a while because of Facebook. Ha... memories.

I guess in that case maybe my testiness was justified? :D But in the case of your friend I guess she probably doesn't really think about the way you wrote it and the intent. Things can look a lot different over the internet if people tend to be over-sensitive to others opinions. They just have to learn to get over it and suck it up or they're going to be constantly irritated at the world. Some people are just natural debaters and others would rather be always right and never have their beliefs questioned. Not much you can do for that sort.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
You were completely justified, in my opinion. :nod: And someone has to really be having some issues if they're going to assume every post is about them. Even when I feel that way, I refrain from launching into battle mode and instead reply to them in a way that explains MY point of view on the issue without it sounding like I'm on to them.
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SideshowJazz17 Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012
I don't get that on Facebook much, but on YouTube, I posted that I felt sorry for Meg from "Family Guy" and everyone was like "You're stupid you idiot, it's not real". Did they have any right to mock empathy for a character, even if she is fictional?
So yeah, I definitely agree.
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Pixar-Porsche Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist Filmographer
as always, I agree. XD
can you link me to ur profile? I'll friend u
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
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therealmoshmonkey Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012
I usually reply to people who say "none of my business" with well can't help you then.

One thing that pisses me off with Facebook is people that accept or request you and then post something likeI'm having a clearout as x y and z don't speak to me. I'm sorry but I'm not online posting on their walls 24/7 and also time zones play their part. The other night I kept getting calendar requests so I checked it out and sent requests back to my entire friends list and this idiot messaged me saying why are you sending me game requests when you never post on my wall. Then again he never critiqued my artwork either so it works both ways, I said if thats how you feel unfriend me then and he took a hint and good riddance.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
If I could "like" that comment, I would! :D
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therealmoshmonkey Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
The none of your business part?
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012
Yup, your reply to people who say that. :)
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ContraryHeartLiger Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012
Jeesh...You don't have to actually be married to commit adultery.

A quote from The Old Catholic Encyclopedia (according to another forum; I looked it up to make sure I was being accurate): "Adultery is defined as carnal connection between a married person and one unmarried, or between a married person and the spouse of another. It is seen to differ from fornication in that it supposes the marriage of one or both of the agents." So, she was mistaken. It might not have been MEANT for "non married ppl", but it DOES apply to them if they do this.

I'm just nitpicking here, though. XD I agree with you. People aren't always going to agree, and no amount of snippy replies are likely to change the other person's mind. In fact, with me at least, it does the exact opposite. I end up holding even more stubbornly to my side of things!

These little pointed comments that people make on Facebook, the ones that aren't directed at anyone in particular but COULD be directed at anyone who might read them...those sort of bug me. I never know if I actually offended somebody, or if somebody else offended them, or if they're just trying to be clever. I've been guilty of it myself, and I realized that I was just feeling sorry for myself and trying to garner sympathy. Not saying that that's what she did, mind you.

I'm talking your ear off now. XD I just don't worry about those things anymore. If I don't agree with someone, I'll usually refrain from posting or state my point once before bowing out of the conversation.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
Exactly! I don't know why she insisted on splitting hairs. Her original post referred to people who "cheat." The word "adultery" never came up, and even if it had, who cares? Married or single, all cheaters are equally guilty in the eyes of society.

I think she may have meant my Bible quote doesn't apply to non married people. At first I thought she meant her own quote. But actually, the Bible quote says "if ANYONE" or "if ANY man" (depends on which Bible, but they all translate roughly the same). That means any man, married or not, can commit adultery.

She really has a lot of nerve arguing against words spoken by "her personal saviour." I rarely go about backing up anything I say with Bible passages, because I don't believe in pushing religion on others, but she calls herself a devoted Christian and all that BS, so I really can't understand why she had any argument against what I said.
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RainbowStr8ghtJacket Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
many many many times.............I hate it most of the time but it's the only way I can keep up with my Battle Buddies who are far away
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felineSyndr0me Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I also hate vague statuses...especially if someone asks whats wrong and the person doesnt reply or replies with "none of your business"

If it is none of their business, keep it the f*ck off of facebook.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
EXACTLY! Why should we give a rat's ass if they're suffering when they refuse to tell us why?
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felineSyndr0me Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed!
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felineSyndr0me Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I am sick of Facebook as well. Not only does every single one of my family members on my dads side stalk the hell out of me...but people who I thought were very happy, fun people are always posting depressing or pissy statuses. Facebook isn't your diary. It's not where you cry out to every single person you've met in your life. It's to keep in touch and share photos and have fun. But NO. We can't have anything nice, can we? lol On the internet...never XD

I was able to block most of those problems I was having, but then when facebook got sold, it started messing up on me. The app never works and it has deleted quite a few of my friends on me more than once. I guess it's a bug? I don't know, but I am beginning to get extremely fed up with it. If it weren't for a few people I want to keep in touch with, my facebook would have been gone months ago.

I miss myspace lol
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
I'll post whatever's on my mind at the moment, even if I'm just sharing someone else's wall post. Most of the things I post are either ignored or just get liked by a few friends. Nobody comments much.

If you are going to use Facebook as your sounding board, DON'T be surprised or angry if you don't get the responses you were looking for. That's what I say. Don't open your mouth if you don't want me to open mine. :nod:
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felineSyndr0me Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Absolutely agree!
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Rollerwings Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I saw your posts, and if I'm not mistaken this is a close friend you've known for years, though I've of course never met her myself. All I can guess is she misunderstood the purpose of your Bible quotation, because it DOES indeed back up what she posted. And I agree with you, married or dating, cheating is cheating. Someone who cheats while dating isn't going to magically reform once he/she exchanges vows. As they say, "marriage isn't reform school."

It sounds like she is really hurting about something right now, and I doubt it ultimately is anything you or the other friend mentioned did. I hope things get better for her.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012
Yeah, I've known her for 11 years and am the godmother of her youngest daughter. It got worse over the past few hours. If you read the replies to my FB post about relationships, you can see her obviously angry reply, accusing me of "knowing everything." That caught me completely by surprise, because I honestly wasn't even thinking of her when I wrote it. I'm seeing a lot of break-up and relationship problems on FB right now and I merely stated a generalized fact on relationships with no one in particular in mind. Now she's all mad at me. :(
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ShioriSohma Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, do I know this feeling. One of my cousins tried to get me into trouble with my folks cause of something I posted that I know he didn't agree with even though I said nothing mean like, put in no names and was just explaining something dealing with those people to a friend who asked about it. My mom never saw it cause I deleted the post but she was very understanding on it after I fully explained it to her some weeks or so later. I also once answered a question thing to a group I'm in about what dubs I think are bad, my pick was the 1960's Astro Boy anime (I twitched when I watched the first ep of that dub and I've never done that with dub anime, no matter how bad it is) and I brought up my bff's pick of a magical girl series called Puella Magi Madoka Magica. Well a few people got at me for my pick, being all like "It's from the 60's." and other stuff like that while another person got at me for my bff's pick while practically worshiping the dub (it's just a series, not your life) which got to me cause it's like I'm just the messenger here and the Astro Boy thing is my opinion and the person who posted the thing did ask us what we thought was a bad anime dub. I also hated that the guy that got at me for my bff's pick also said my bff likely hated all anime dubs and I got at him for it by stating that she does like some English dubs like Death Note and Hetalia but that person didn't seem to listen. That whole thing brought me down for awhile and after that I vowed to my bff that I'll talk to her and my bf about dubs I don't like cause if people are going to act to me like that over it enough though I had answered a question dealing with it then it's not worth it.
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Nevuela Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012
Jeez. Give 'em what they want, and they have the nerve to complain. It's like people on Facebook expect everyone to understand EXACTLY what they mean after they've only given you the bare minimum to go on, and without facial cues or vocal tones, you can't tell if someone is being sarcastic or serious or whatever. We're supposed to READ their minds through their vague posts.
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ShioriSohma Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
No kidding, that's the only thing that makes me hate online chatting. I've gotten into arguments with people and friends cause they misunderstood something I said cause they couldn't hear how I said it which would of made the convo a whole lot different. As for with my cousin, the convo with my friend was about one of my aunts who hasn't really been there for me and my family (a lot of my relatives are like that actually) and I added to not get me started on my uncle (seriously it be like a novel chapter at the least) who is my cousin's dad and he didn't like me putting that in. He always dislikes me saying anything about his dad. Yeah, I get it that he's his dad and all but he's seen first hand that his dad is not the best parent or even the best person. The two have gotten into more arguments then people in Big Brother or Jersey Shore and he doesn't really do anything with him and his little brother which has lead to me and my dad doing family like stuff with them in his place so with stuff like that going on he shouldn't get upset over what I say about his dad since it's the truth and he darn well knows it. Even my dad told him that when he tries to get at my dad for doing that.
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