Why do kids who are bullied in school commit suicide, but never kids who are abused and/or molested by their own family? Isn't that like ten times worse? Your family is who you live with. You're with them 2/3 of every single day, year round. You only have to deal with classmates a couple hours a day, 5 days a week, but not all year round. Only outside of the classroom (i.e. recess/lunch) are they able to harass you without the teacher being aware of it. That doesn't give them a whole lot of time each day to torment you. And most of them don't know where you live or hang out. Your family knows exactly where you live and hang out. There's no escaping them, but there IS escaping classmates. Simply go to the principal's office, or hang around close to a teacher who is monitoring the playground, and you're safe.
Your family is capable of doing a whole lot worse to you than bullies at school. They can starve you, work you live a slave, make you sleep on the cold, hard floor, lock you in a closet, beat you anytime they want, and molest you. Bullies have very limited access to you, and they can't manipulate your living conditions the way your family can. Not only that, but it is your FAMILY that you have for life, they provide the only home you've ever known, they are responsible for your health and well-being, and they are the ones who are supposed to love you no matter what. Your classmates are only required to tolerate your existence, nothing more. You don't live with them, you barely know them and they barely know you, you share nothing important, not blood, not a home, not memories, nothing. And best of all, you'll be rid of them forever once you are out of that particular school.
So why do kids care so much what their classmates think of them that they want to kill themselves, yet no child ever seems to be suicidal due to a bad home life. I've read a lot of articles and watched a lot of documentaries about this stuff over the years, and have not seen ONE single case where a kid committed suicide because of how he/she was treated at home. Of course, the parents could be covering it up somehow, but in all those cases there is still solid, documented evidence of the victims being bullied in school anyway.
I'm not in any way condoning suicide, regardless of how terrible a child's situation is. I am just saying that I find it odd that kids seem to be more severely affected by the way their peers view and treat them than their own parents. It just doesn't make sense. But then child abuse does go undetected for years, sometimes forever. Kids aren't afraid to tell their parents they're being bullied at school, but they are naturally terrified when it's the parents who are doing the bullying. Who can they turn to then?
Every time I hear about a kid committing suicide due to bullying, I just can't help thinking these things. Why give a shit what they think? You won't be around them forever. Don't let them win. I was bullied and teased a lot too, but I wasn't miserable enough to want to give up on my entire life just because a small part of it sucked. Assholes are everywhere. So are beauty and joy and love.